So, I'm long overdue for an update on Mason. I planned on doing on in April because April is Autism Awareness Month and is also the month in 2015 that we found out that Mason has autism. But life had other plans and the time flew on past. Then I planned to do an update on the one year anniversary of me posting this letter to Mason, but again, life. I promise though... it's coming!
Today I wanted to focus a little on our potty training journey. Mason will be four in July and probably about 97% of kids are more than potty trained by now. I'd say most start to try between maybe the ages of two and three and are mostly potty trained by three when they start preschool. Thankfully, and luckily, for us, Mason is at a preschool that did not require him to be potty trained (so when he started at the age of two and not potty trained, it was not a problem). They are also helping us in the potty training journey, which I, for one, am SO happy about! Heck, I don't know anything about peeing standing up!
Up until now, I haven't pushed potty training. I'm sure I'm the only one in the world, but I don't hate changing diapers (in fact it's kind of convenient because if your kid needs to go, they just go, and you don't have to drop everything and find a bathroom). That being said, I know I can't be selfish forever and Mason obviously needs to learn to use the toilet.
We tried a while ago but didn't really have much success. We got one of those little toilets that you sit on on the floor and he had no interest. We even bought the potty seat for the toilet since that's what they were using at school since they were having some success - no success at home, even though we bought the exact same brand and everything. So I didn't push it. At this point, Mason's communication skills were still behind and I didn't think he could tell me when he needed to go. He also didn't seem to care when he was wet or dirty, so I just didn't think he was ready.
Fast forward a bit and we started to encourage it more and more. His ABA therapist would work on it at school with his teachers and at home with us. I even put up a little potty chart so he could add stickers. I thought that would give him some incentive - getting a prize once he filled up a row - but it didn't really work.
Fast forward to now. We got a letter home about two weeks ago saying that the school was going to full on start potty training Mason. They told us to bring four changes of bottoms, four changes of tops, four pairs of underwear, and two changes of socks and shoes. This was hardcore. I was actually excited. There's one teacher there that is known for potty training - not that she is mean, but she gets results. I was super excited, yet still not confident. Mason's speech has come A LONG WAY, but he still doesn't tell us when he needs to use the potty. We initiate often and he'll go when we take him, but he doesn't tell us and he still doesn't seem to care if he's wet or dirty. If I didn't change it, I think he'd walk around all day like that. It just doesn't phase him.
But hey, I'm up for trying anything.
So, the weekend before he was due to start potty training, we went to Target and bought some underwear and also happened to be lucky enough to get to try out some underwear from Lucky & Me. The Lucky & Me underwear are quite possibly the cutest things I've ever seen. I don't know why but I always think that things are cuter when they are smaller and the little boxers that we were sent are quite possibly the cutest things ever. Not only are they cute off Mason, but they are also cute on Mason. Yes, I'm that parent. I mean, come on, look at him!
We got the Grayson boxers and the Liam boxers. Both are super cute and so, so soft. What I also love about them is that they are tag-less. While Mason only had mild sensory issues due to his autism, I always look for everything he wears to be tag-less because no tag = less chance of him being annoyed and upset by it, more chance of him keeping it on, and a higher possibility of everyone leaving for work and school in the morning happy. In fact, I've been trying to let Mason make more of his own decisions in the morning in terms of his clothes so he feels more "in charge" so every morning I ask Mason which underwear he wants to wear and every morning he reaches for one of his pairs of boxers. Clearly he loves the softness and the feel of them too.
I also love that these styles of boxers are more formfitting so there is less chance of extra bulk in his pants or shorts and him getting annoyed by that as well. And bonus points, they are work as "shorts" when it's hot out and your kid wants to wear minimal clothing while playing basketball.
So, overall, I definitely wouldn't say that we can say that we've been successful with potty training, but I will say we've had some successes. I've "trained" (for lack of a better word) Mason to know that when it's bath time, we go upstairs, take off his clothes and diaper, and then go in to the bathroom to use the toilet before he gets in the bath. He does this automatically now and without a fight. I've also successfully had him come with me to the bathroom at a few restaurants and use the toilet. This was one of my biggest worries because of the noise of the flushing, but he doesn't seem to have any problem with the flushing noise (all the praise hand emojis!). He did, however, get scared when we were in a bathroom the other day and they only had the electronic hand dryer. It was really loud and he was scared to put his hands under the "unknown" which I completely get (hey, even I think they are loud!). So whenever I need to use the bathroom, I ask him if he needs to and he usually says yes. The first time I was shocked, but went along with it, and took him in. He wanted me to go first (sorry TMI) so I did everything I needed to and he flushed. Then I told him that it was his turn. I helped him pull down his pants and diaper with underwear over and he went! He flushed the toilet and then we both washed our hands. I think treating him like a big boy and praising him for going (I heard a little giggle from someone - probably a fellow mom - when I yelled "good job Mason!!!" after he went to the bathroom) has really helped. He gets a huge smile on his face and is so proud of himself. I, in turn, am so proud of him too, especially the fact that he goes potty like a big boy standing up. We haven't yet tried going #2 and sitting down, but baby steps!!
So, that's where we are. I know it will come when he's ready. I'm not too worried. He still has at least one more year of preschool before we put him in to kindergarten and I feel confident that he will be potty trained by the time he goes to kindergarten. Everything will happen when it's supposed to!
Enough potty talk... let's giveaway a gift card! Lucky & Me was generous enough to offer one reader a $50 e-gift card to their website! You can use it on anything you like (they have super cute stuff for girls too!). Winner will be notified by me and gift card will be emailed by Lucky & Me. Open to US residents only. Giveaway runs from Friday, May 20, 2016 at midnight PST to Monday, May 30, 2016 at midnight PST.
Discloser : I was given these underwear for free in exchange for a blog post. However, all opinions and statements are 100% mine (and Mason's!).
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